Sometimes, we fall into the crevice of the unheard. The times when you speak your truth in a rational way and are met with disarming rhetoric that leaves you feeling alone. I shared with someone that their reaction to something I did was unkind and I felt like it was an attack to a degree. The other person’s perception was quite different.
These are the moments where one can feel inadequate, not validated, and most of all, frustrated. What I was hoping for was the other person to simply say they were sorry. I owned my part, but was told that I did not. Situations like this provide me with an opportunity to either engage or walk away. To either be right or to be happy. Sometimes I want both which is highly improbable. I chose to engage because I felt like I wasn’t being heard. This resulted in an argument.
Part of the growth process for me is learning to listen to others. To fully hear how they feel and respond accordingly. I felt that I had heard the other person and their frustration with my actions. Sometimes our expectations of others fall short. Then what do we do with the aftermath? For me, I write my blog. Sharing my experience and hoping that by putting it out there, I can learn from it.
I am not perfect. I strive to do better everyday and sometimes I falter. Other times I rally. It is an uneven terrain to navigate. While my emotions stir with confusion, I am comforted by the fact that I have choices. We all simply want to be validated. It is human nature. Relationships are hard enough, but more so if there is a disconnect in communication.
The beautiful thing is that with time situations change. For example, as I was writing this blog, I was offered an amends by the person in question. They owned their part and affirmed me. While I still have residue from the exchange, I feel heard and the frustration that swallowed me is slowly melting away.