I wasn’t always limited in my view of others. It was a hobby of mine to reflect, inject, and completely immerse myself in other people’s business. Quite possibly it was my addiction. It took me a while to figure out that the obsession with other people’s lives was solely to avoid looking at my own.
I have this “hula hoop” that I imagine is surrounding me. Anything outside of that is simply none of my concern. Oh, but how I want it to be! Sometimes I hear and see stuff so out of the realms of logic, that I instantly want to have an opinion. Most days I can reign it in and look at what is going on with me that I am avoiding, but there are those times where I eat it up like a long lost cupcake.
Let’s be honest……gossiping is a little fun. Don’t act like you don’t know what I mean. It happens. We can all fall into that trap. I have noticed that euphoric feeling doesn’t last for long and I end up feeling a bit out of sorts after dishing the goods. I used to think knowledge was power, but now I wish I didn’t know some of the things occupying my brain.
As my oldest reminds my mother all of the time…..focus! focus! focus! Focus on yourself. I remind myself everyday that I can barely deal with the stuff going on with me, why would I want someone else’s aggravation? The alternative to tearing someone else down is to build them up. If I can’t do that, then I need to keep my mouth closed and remember that we are all doing the best we can. Some are just coping better than others.