Humans are a tricky species. We are layered in unrealistic expectations that if we aren’t careful can seep out and take those around us hostage. It has taken some time for me to capture the ability to not take other people’s issues personally. Even when they attack, accuse, and pummel me with harsh words. Yesterday was a beautiful example of how much growth I have endured over the last few years.
I was on a euphoric high yesterday. The weekend had been amazing. Everything has been unfolding so beautifully recently that I have nothing to complain about, so when I received a phone call with a hostile tone, I was able to breathe and not become defensive. Apparently, this individual was upset that she had called several times last week and I didn’t call her back. Keep in mind there was no message left and the last time I checked, I wasn’t a mind reader. I shared that with her and she told me that every time she talks to me, she feels worse about herself. My response was, “I am not that powerful”. This wasn’t a close friend, but someone I was helping navigate some issues. Then I suggested that she find some else better equipped to help her and that was the end of our conversation.
The beauty was that it didn’t ruin my day. I actually felt quite proud of myself because in similar situations, I would have resorted to nasty tactics that would have been hurtful. Today, I don’t need to do that because the truth is that when people attack me, there is something insidious stirring within them. When I can identify that it has nothing to do with me, then I can simply rest in the comfort that I have kept my side of the street clean. Breathe in the good shit. Exhale the bullshit.