Here we are again, friends. We are about to embark on the holiday season where unrealistic expectations sit at the head of the table. Sure, I might sound like Debbie Downer, but you know I’m right. Holidays create a lot of drama that can be easily avoided.
Now you’re probably thinking that I am saying to not engage with people. Of course, that would be the easiest solution, but obviously not realistic. However, I do think the best approach is to keep it simple. If you are entertaining, don’t pretend you are Martha Stewart by making everything from scratch. This girl bought a pie from Trader Joe’s plus a big platter of Stouffer’s Macaroni and Cheese to accompany the fried turkey my spouse will be preparing. There is no fanfare over here.
During the holidays, it is important to operate on the notion that self-care is a priority. Some of the people might be difficult. The holidays put the fun in dysfunctional and bring out the crazies. I like to refer to those individuals as “tool testers”. These are the people who will take a joy ride on your nerves. So, take a breather. It is okay to remove yourself from the room. In fact, it is perfectly acceptable to say you are going to the restroom and actually get in your car and leave. Sure, it might be awkward if you are hosting, but self-care is a necessity.
Easy does it, friends. This isn’t a sprint, but a long-ass marathon. We’ve got a month of festivities to plow through and in order to be the best version of ourselves, we must acknowledge that the holidays can be difficult. Sometimes people suck. We might be disappointed. Maybe this is first holiday without a loved one. Whatever the circumstances, remember that this too shall pass.